In the article, Heather Plett writes beautifully about what it means to hold space for someone. She then offers advice in another lovely article on how to hold space for yourself.
"What does it mean to hold space for someone else? It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement and control." - Heather Plett.
Heather's articles made me think about how, over the past few years, dealing with various disruptive energies, I've been learning some things about holding space ...
Learning that people can keep themselves safe even if they don't have a hard shell of defence, but instead hold their inner space with warm light (or cool shadow), allowing energy to flow in, either to be transformed or released, and allowing energy to flow out fearlessly. Antoinette wrote on this subject a while ago.
Learning that inner space resonates with the energy of external space, so a person can be connected to their self most easily if they have a safe and loving connection with the environment which surrounds them and holds them in a real, practical sense - the home, the neighbourhood, the daily schedule, the energies they choose to live amongst. LM Montgomery understood this, and Steiner schools are created around the idea.
Learning too that things can help shape and hold a person's inner space. We're not supposed to focus on things, are we? But personally, a lovely tea cup, or lace dress, or rose perfume, makes a real difference to how I feel within myself. I also find myself supported ... or disrupted ... by the books I read, the music I regularly listen to, the articles I visit, the influences I allow into my life through the internet.
And learning that all of this is easier when a person trusts the greater spirit that holds theirs.
These thoughts are merely what Heather's articles brought to the front of my mind. Please go and read what she herself wrote, I'm sure she will inspire you too.