Today I experienced a deception from someone I thought was trustworthy. It led me to think about how some people and organisations seem to be untrustworthy in the service of their own ego, rather than fear and financial profit. I wondered if that was because we live in such an intensely competitive world now, and some want to set themselves up as superior to others because it makes them feel safer. I certainly think there's a lot of self-deception that happens with such people and organisations, making them not so much ill-intending as misguided.
I wrote about this here, and was clear that I was making a general observation, not talking about anyone in particular.
So far, so good.
But then I wrote about my trust issues as a reader. Specifically about how my expectations are sometimes not matched by what lies within the books I choose. Mostly this is about marketing - about how covers and blurbs can draw a reader in with the idea that a story is one thing, when it would be better described as being something else altogether.
I ended up deleting the post. I do think this is an interesting topic for contemplation, but I'm terrified people will think I intended a negative review about any particular book. I definitely didn't. Firstly, reviews aren't all that helpful, in my opinion. What one reader loves, another will not. For that matter, what I love one day I may not another, depending on my mood and what I need from a book at a certain time. But also, writing is a difficult and raw-hearted process. I would not want to discourage anyone from it, or make them feel bad about what they'd achieved. For these reasons, I no longer give reviews about books unless I can gush over them.
However, I felt my post might be interpreted as a review, so I deleted it.
The internet is a difficult place sometimes. Getting one's intention across without inadvertently offending anyone can be really hard to do. Does this mean we never share an opinion or thought, but go on blandly talking about the weather or our laundry? Or do we share ideas and hope that our spirit shines through? Always trying to not give offence can be just as dangerous as giving it. Political correctness can cause great harm to individuals and societies, even though its intention is good. How can we be kind while still discussing thorny issues?
Blogger friends, what do you think?