Staying Gentle in a Loud World

Hello from a dark and quiet Autumn morning. A cicada is singing in my garden; further on, the distant roads are humming with people already going to work and school, despite the dark hour. When I glance over my shoulder, through lace and patterned glass, I can see the deep blue promise of day.




I am endlessly glad to be able to be quiet myself in such a morning. As the day goes on, I will lose that feeling - looking ahead to long hours with much to do, I know I will become scratchy at my edges and tough at my heart. I wish not, so much. But the thing you might not realise about many grumpy people is that they could very well be sensitive and quiet spirits who can not cope with all the clamour of the world.




To support myself in staying soft-hearted and gentle, I do small things - wrap myself in a pashmina (because shawls are no longer approved of), wear rose-scented talcum powder, wear clothes that are soft and warming. The lace trim of a petticoat, unseen but drifting across the skin, can bring such comfort. Carrying a lovely book can also help - not to read, necessarily, but just to hold so the memory of its poetry or beautiful words can flow through my field of energy. Sometimes listening to peaceful music is good, but when senses are harassed by too much stimuli, music can perhaps make things worse.

Do you like to be gentle in the world, or are you a strong and striding woman, a fierce and wonderful woman? Either way, what tricks do you have to keep yourself authentic and inside yourself when amongst the frenetic world?


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15 comments:

  1. Lovely.
    I am not a strong and striding woman, I'm fairly gentle. Definitely quiet - I neither like, nor cope with lots of noise. But I have speed and intensity : )
    Things that help me to stay true and centred in the world: music and essential oil of rose. And cosiness. Cosiness grounds my nature. It's my mother-space. For myself, as much as others. xx

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  2. This was so nice to read. Maybe this will surprise you, but I think I identify closely with how you described yourself. I like to be gentle in the world. But it's funny, instead of wrapping myself in clothes that are soft and warming, when I go out into the world, it's more like I put on my armor, particularly when I go downtown. When I'm there, I'm wearing heels, leather, black...I probably look like a strong, and striding woman.

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  3. Oh, Sarah, you sound like such a sweet, gentle soul and your writing always reflects that. I love being quiet too - I like using lavender soaps and lotions, I don't need a lot of company and I enjoy meditation.
    I love that I've learned to say no to going to events when I'd rather be home and I love that I'm married to someone who likes being quiet too. It's very freeing being your authentic self, isn't it. It reminds me of that saying, "I decided to be myself because everyone else is already taken."

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  4. I am thinking... And I think I can be both, depending on the day. But I love your description, your method, of supporting your soft self. Because the world is a hard place sometimes.

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  5. As Antoinette, I'm speedy and intense, probably feisty too. But in many things I'm a double creature because I'm also a recluse and love the silence. Not that I dislike people but their sounds make me exhausted. I especially require not to be talked at in the morning, so I can begin slowly. I can handle my own speed, but not demands of speed from somebody else, which has made me realise that being speedy has perhaps been a defense, I've conditioned myself to catch up - and now I'm learning to not do that. I need a shield, not to shut the world out, but to stop things from leaking both ways, blurring my boundaries. I don't know that petticoats would do the trick though. ;-) Mostly I've been doing the porcupine thing, but I'd love if it were more subtle and less draining to protect oneself.

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  6. Beautifully written and photographed.

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  7. I have had to learn to appreciate that I am both, and the switch from one to t'other can be intense and instant. But right now this post is speaking my language. Today every sound feels like sandpaper and it's making me very grumpy. This too shall pass. Thank you for this peaceful moment.

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  8. I too am both. I look to nature, whether I am at home or in the city. The light, colors and sounds are calming.
    Enjoy your day, Sarah.
    Lin

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  9. Elizabeth Waggoner USAMarch 18, 2015 at 2:08 AM

    As an introvert, the world at large is way too full of sensory overload for me. I can thoroughly enjoy being out and about but usually only for a little while, so that's how I cope with it all - in small bits and pieces. It's very rare that I ever have to "make a day of it". At home (I live alone) the TV is seldom on. I read, I journal and if a day has been particularly trying, sometimes I just sit with windows open listening to birdsong. Though I live in a town, I have a fairly wide expanse of open space behind my home. There's a small field and a line of trees that block out a lot of traffic and town noise, so I'm blessed in that.

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  10. This is so lovely. So, so lovely. xx

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  11. Another beautiful post that just hits home for me. For the most part I am quiet, gentle, with a touch of wildness. Especially these days where I crave softness, slowness and stillness.

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  12. Oh I love your writing. I'm a gentle, sensitive soul. I like what you said about holding a book, because sometimes I just like to pick up a book that I love, feel it in my hands, its energy. Knowing I can come home to chocolate sometimes helps me get through a rough day :)

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  13. I am mostly gentle, tho' sometimes gently fierce. I do stride, on the earth, if I am wearing boots. And I've not received the word about shawls and often wrap myself in them, spaciousness, too. I think that margin, of all sorts, keeps my world peaceful...whether I am in town or here at home in the fields...white space on my walls, enough time around tasks, quiet moments amongst the noisy days...

    And I agree with your insights about petticoats, carrying books and grumpiness. I am less often grumpy now that my days are so much quieter. Thank you for the links, I am looking forward to visiting them, but especially for putting into words thoughts that often stay only in our hearts and minds...xo

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  14. Thank you so much everyone for your comments. I'm not able to reply personally to them today but am so grateful to read them all. xx

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  15. I too can be both. What beautiful writing! Thank you for sharing this on the Art of Home-Making Mondays. These words were a lovely feast this morning.

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